Last week I slid on a patch of ice while driving and bent my tire rim.
My car wobbles.
Yesterday my cup leaked an inch of
water into my car’s cup holder.
Today I read an email from a woman
who wishes I’d stop sending her those church updates while I’m filling in
administratively. She’s done with
that church.
The weight of a conversation with
my father presses heavy.
And one more person asks me about my job search. Then another.
Ever so subtly, failure settles
in.
My heart hurts.
Too much flesh revealed, too jaded
of an expression on her young face, and the evidence of too much sex and drugs
appear in her vacant eyes. My
heart squeezes as I look at the latest photo of my foster daughter. It squeezes and breaks to think that I
have held this girl, still so young, when she cried on the anniversary of her
miscarriage. I’ve tucked her in,
heard her prayers, cheered her on (in totally embarrassing mom style—which
earned me a huffy sigh and eye roll) at sporting events, and wrestled with
English homework. I love this
girl, and it hurts my heart to see her like this. And so I click off her facebook page so I can regroup, try
to numb my heart by distracting myself with something else. I push the sense of loss far away.
A few nights ago I headed off to
Target to buy a birthday gift for a one year old. He’s precious, and growing up way too fast when I compare
the 6 month garments to the 12 month ones.
Being an only child, I don’t have
siblings with children. Which of
course gives me full license to appoint myself as this wee boy’s
God-Aunty. (In case you were
wondering, Target does not sell onesies with the slogan “My Self-Appointed
God-Aunty Loves Me Best.” You’ll
probably have to settle like I did for a plain ole “Aunt” onesie. C’est la vie.) In wandering the aisles of these
darling little clothes I hold up rompers and the tiniest little shoes, and yes,
even a clip-on tie. My uterus is
quick to cheer “Yes! We need two
of everything! It’s so stinkin’
adorable!” My brain will have none
of this nonsense and promptly sends a response back “Traitor.” If looks could kill, I’m sure my brain
would’ve murdered my uterus many times over.
“Pierce Brosnan and George Clooney
are NOT available. Simmer it down
down there.” Cue evil glare.
“You don’t even have a house, WHERE
are you planning on putting that tasty, modern furniture set?” Followed quickly with a belittling
look, maybe even a headshake.
“Enough with the baby
clothes—you’re not getting one of those anytime soon. Probably never.”
And so on. These internal dialogues happen a lot
in the aisles of Target. *sigh*
Although I momentarily grin at this
internal dialogue, I’m aware that much deeper, hidden underneath it, my heart
pinches and twinges.
No baby.
No husband.
And not even a prospect of one.
At one time I would have been A-Okay with that.
But I’ve had time to heal and
process, and now every so often…in the quiet spaces…sheltered deep where no one
can see or touch or laugh at…
I know I yearn for these
things.
And ever so quickly, I push the
thought out of my mind, because although the healing is significant, the lies
still raise their voice.
The sense of inadequacy and shame
wraps me close, deeper than flesh, fighting to remain part of my identity.
This week my morning readings have
focused primarily on peace.
Peace.
Yes. I breathe it deep.
I let the word flutter through my
mind and try to settle on me. In
me. And it won’t. My thick heart-skin is tough with the
pains of life. Peace is a heart
word, and right now my heart wants protection and lets nothing close. Except pain. The unintentional wounds. I wish I could embrace that peace, but my thoughts are too
busy, too dense, too something and I am
reminded that the thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy. I strive to take those thoughts
captive. And again. Again. Again. They
persist and the weight of failure presses me down. I see it, I know it, and it angers me because I feel so
feeble, my attempts so futile. I
fail. I am not good enough. I cannot do it. My worth…well, what little there may
have been, it’s dwindling fast. My
shattered heart yearns to throw a fit, to yell, to push back because I know, I
know, better.
I am angry with myself. Psychology tells us anger is a
secondary emotion, that it is the product of either pain or fear, sometimes
both. I see it in me, the pain and
the fear. I know it… I know…
I know the truth, and the Truth
sets me free. I know.
I know.
But where oh where is it? I must be doing something wrong. Straight away my head corrects that
thought. Puh-leeze. Head knowledge schools me, but my heart… Oh my heart throbs for the experiential
knowledge of a victorious giver of life, and life to the full!
I slow. I think of these things, look close at them, feel their
shape in my hand, turn them in my mind.
I think of this week and the snap
shots I’ve experienced above. And
I stew. These things I’ve pondered
an embarrassingly long time in recent days. In what has felt like self-preservation, I’ve tried to not
look at them, but even without my eyes on it, the feelings edge in, pressing
close, not seen clearly but felt.
But as I slow and allow myself to
focus, to examine the mess that rages chaotic, I hear another voice.
Beloved.
Beloved, I love you.
You are mine.
The voice is slow, quiet, not at
all hyper or bitter like my own thoughts.
In the past I have been told that I belong to another, but this…is
different. Not ugly with entitled
possession. It is the voice of the
Shepherd. My Abba Father. My Jesus Savior. And the voice seeps slow and rich like
honey, golden heavy, into my heart.
I sit quiet in His presence, my focus finally shifted from the sin
ugliness of self.
Beloved, I hear you. Let me step into those aches and ask
you
what is beneath them all? Hmmm?
Good question. Long have I felt worthless, known
it. Seen time and time again that
my striving and seeking after perfection to earn love, well, it’s not good
enough, and I ache with the realization I can do nothing to be loved. I cannot cover enough the scars cut and
branded on me, in me.
I. Fall.
Short.
It is that knowledge that throbs
dull, that I try to tune out.
Again, the voice…
Beloved, I have good news for
you. I bind the brokenhearted,
proclaim you captive no more. No
more! You are free and released
from darkness, no longer a prisoner.
I comfort you as you mourn.
I do the work, a new work, in you.
I take your ashes, and give you a crown of beauty. I restore you, because I chose
you. I paid a great price for
you—not merely to own you as an object, but as my Beloved. I took your dead self, breathed my life
into you, and you live. You live
the full life I give to you. I
have taken your shame and given you a double portion. I have taken your heart of stone, and put in you a heart of
flesh. It is for freedom that I have
set you free. It is you I woo
Beloved, you who I am shaping to be my bride.
And there it is, in the quietness,
the leading of the One who knows me through and through. The voice that spoke stillness into the storm speaks stillness into my heart. The hurts and worries and shame, they turn transparent, empty, in the pure light of
the Word.
I am loved. Loved. And the longer I hold those God-truths in my heart-hands,
turning them over, memorizing their shape, weight, feel…the more real they become.
Solid.
Familiar.
Falling into my being like a rounded rock plunks through cold water,
substance sinking deep.
I breathe. And breathe again. Gone is the claustrophobic cage gripping my heart and lungs.
That peace that seemed like
mockery? It is soft now, pliable
and tender and saturating. My
heart skin has thinned thinned thinned.
Warmed free by the love of my Abba Bridegroom. It matters not what cares and worries have weighed me. Even if I had none, (none!) I would
still not be enough, and I am freed from
the striving, free to just be, free to look beyond self and see Him.
It is good that I stop to savor,
process, and record these God-experiences. All too soon I am going to forget the truths that bring me
life. All too soon I will flail in
failed brokenness. But here it is,
a captured moment to soothe and heal, to woo and nurture. I will rest in the vine branch, abiding
in Him and He in me, authoring the gift of peace and love. Cheap words, pretty ideas. But oh the beauty of their full
substance! Lavished upon me time
and time again.
I will waste it, careless at times,
and still it will be poured on me. Why? Because I am His and He delights in me.
A mystery. But there you have it, truth nonetheless.
And now I grin easily. My thin-skinned heart light in the
knowledge that I am enough for the I AM.
When we were freed,
released from
captivity,
it was like a
dream for us all.
Our mouths were filled with
laughter,
our tongues
with songs of joy.
And all around us people said
with wonder
“The Lord has
done great things for you.”
And it’s so true, isn’t
it?!
The Lord HAS
done great things for us and we are
filled,
filled, with joy!
Restore
us, O Lord, like winter-fresh streams through the
desert
sands.
Do
it again, Papa God!
Those
of us who sow in tears, our hearts heavy,
we
will reap with songs of joy.
That
Dear One who weeps? Carrying that
seed to sow?
Guess
what?
Dear
one, along with a full harvest
you return with songs of joy!